THE FIRST TIME-CAN YOU CATCH SOMETHING?
Q: Can having sex with a virgin while yourself being a virgin; are you able to get chlamydia?
A: If your partner has engaged in other forms of genital sexuality like oral sex, they could have contracted a sexually transmitted infection. But if neither of you have had any sexual contact at all (nothing below the belt), then it is unlikely that you would get anything. Infections are passed on when you come in contact with bodily fluids of an infected person, but also HPV and Herpes can be passed on from skin to skin (genital) contact. Few people realize this, but you can also get an STI in your eye if you touch your eye after coming into contact with infected bodily fluids (so make sure to wash your hands). Safe sex is important of course, but so is protecting yourselves from an unplanned pregnancy. So consider birth control too, since YES you can get pregnant the first time!
GIVING ORAL SEX TO MAN
Q: I have a couple questions, I haven’t really ever giving oral sex before or being sexually active like real sex you know , but I feel that I’m ready to take my relationship the next level, I really do want to pleasure my boyfriend in every aspect to it, but I feel shy to ask him if I can give him oral sex, please keep in mind that he doesn’t get bother by the fact that we don’t have sex even though we being going out for a year now, he does play with me and stimulates me too but I just feel shy to ask if I can be able to do the same for me. If you can help me with that I will be sooo thankful to you ! Please and thank you
A: Part of a healthy sex life is being able to discuss sexuality with your partner. If you want to try anything new, then just tell your partner you would like to. Say something like “how would you like it/feel if I performed oral sex on you?”
LASTING TOO LONG?
Q: My husband loves oral sex however but he’s uncut, large and can last forever. He gives me whatever I want and more. But sometimes I get off 20/30 times and he doesn’t mostly. Should I work harder? Or complain he takes too long?
A: Complaining certainly won’t change anything. Many men do not orgasm from oral sex, simply because they get more stimulation from other forms of sexuality or they prefer other types of activities. It doesn’t mean they are not enjoying what you are doing. Use oral sex as a method of foreplay and finish with what he does like more. You can also ask him if there is anything you could do differently (there are many ways you could use your mouth and tongue). You can also try using your hand tightly and up and down around his penis at the same time as you are performing oral sex. But really, he is the only one who could tell you what he likes and what feels good to him.